Stop…in the name of love

This morning, I said “Hi how are you doing?” to the facilities guy in my building as he was taking the trash out to the dumpster.  As I walked by him, he stopped like he was going to say something and said “Hi”.  He stood there silently, and I felt awkward about continuing to walk past him. 

You see, he does this every day that I say “Hi how are you?” on my way in to work.  Today, as I entered the building it hit me.  

Maybe he is stopping, because he really wants to talk about how he is doing and how I am doing.  Duh!  C’mon TJ, smarten up!  

It’s interesting how a colloquial saying can become so second nature that we don’t actually want to know how someone is doing.  In my  head, I just repeated the phrase “Stop…in the name of love”.  If I care about someone, I should really stop and hear how they are doing.  

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  • 4 days ago

Prayer for Strength

O God, the deathless hope of all, we rejoice that You support us both when little and even to gray hairs. When our strength is of You, it is strength indeed; but when our own only, it is feebleness. With You are refreshment and true strength.

Augustine of Hippo
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  • 5 days ago
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  • 1 week ago

Row faster…

When someone or something in your organization is making waves, you have two choices:  Row faster or get out of the boat!  

As long as you believe in the mission and strategy - my encouragement would be to row faster with the team.  

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  • 1 week ago

Believe it before you communicate it

Leaders must feel it and believe it before they communicate it to others.  

On a daily basis, I call prospective students who are interested in Regent University’s graduate programs.  At times, people can become frustrated with the requirements for a program.  For instance, many students are disappointed that they have to take the GRE, or they are too afraid to take it.  

To avoid confrontation, it would be easier to say “Yeah, the professors came up with this requirement.  It’s just something you have to do to enter the program”.  

However, we have a responsibility to own team decisions.  When the decision has been made, we need to be adept at communicating those decisions in a positive light.  Our self leadership should cause us to work on the wording so that we can believe what we are saying to others.  

If you don’t feel it, neither will the interested prospect, client, or member.

Feel it and believe it, before you communicate it.   

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  • 1 week ago

Conflict Resolution

I would venture to say that conflict resolution is something that should be preached in churches, taught in colleges, and learned by all MANY TIMES a YEAR.  I have often felt so unprepared for dealing with conflict.  I think I suck really bad at it.  I’m sure most of us feel that way and want to avoid it like the plague.  

In some time with God this morning I decided that I would find some Scriptures in the Bible that would be helpful in how we should deal with conflict.  There are both Scriptures that tell us what to do, and some where we see a story played out where people are dealing with conflict.  

I wanted to share in case it would be helpful for you.  Please, if you have any other Scriptures we can add or thoughts on this subject - leave them in the comments section.  That would be greatly appreciated!  

  • Acts 15:1-35 - Jerusalem Council 
  • Acts 15:36-41 - Paul and Barnabas Separate 
  • Matthew 18:15-17 - Conflict between brothers
  • Proverbs 15:1 - soft answer turns away wrath 
  • Romans 12:17-21 - don’t repay evil for evil 
  • Matthew 5:9 - Blessed are the peacemakers
  • James 1:19 - Be slow to speak, quick to listen
  • Proverbs 16:7 - his enemies live at peace with him
  • 1 Timothy 5:19 - charge against an elder 
  • Psalm 103:8 - Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. 
  • Proverbs 18:19 - brother offended is unyielding
  • Colossians 3:13 - forgiving one another as Christ forgave me. 
  • Ephesians 4:26,31 - no anger when sun goes down and put away all bitterness. 
  • 1 Kings 3:25-28 - Solomon solving conflict of whose child it is.  

Leave your Scriptures, comments, thoughts, and questions in the comments box.  :) 

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  • 2 years ago

One Year Unemployment Anniversary

I want to publicly thank God for giving me a job this week.  

It was exactly one year ago today that I applied for unemployment, and thank God for the blessing that it was for this last year.  On Monday, I start a new job as an admissions counselor for the school of Education at Regent University.  Basically, I help teachers apply to get their Masters and Doctorate degrees at Regent (if you are interested in doing this online or on campus, let me know).  

This last year has been a roller coaster of emotions in the realm of job searching.  However, God used this time to really grow my life in many dimensions…

  • Physically - I think one of the most obvious benefits for me has been the development of a regular workout schedule and healthy eating.  It really took this time of no work to help me get into the habit of working out.  I have lost 25 pounds in the last 3 months.  I eat a healthy amount of calories, exercise for at least an hour 5-6 days a week.  
  • Emotionally - As a man, I have grown in my endurance and tenacity.  God has grown my endurance muscles to continue to have hope up until this time when I got the job (see James 1:2-6).  Also, I didn’t give up and had more fight in me with every job rejection.  
  • Mentally - I learned how to tailor-make resumes in this new economy (if you need help in this, let me know).  I would spend about 30-45 minutes on each resume/application I would send out.  
  • Spiritually - My hunger for God’s Word and voice has grown in this time.  Instead of relying on the way I’ve always done things, I have begun to trust the voice of the Holy Spirit.  I’m talking to God more and hearing His Word more.  I’ve loved being able to post notes on YouVersion - as it gives me a Scriptural journal.  So cool!  

SO ONCE AGAIN - I JUST PUBLICLY WANT TO THANK GOD FOR THIS LAST YEAR AND FOR ALL THAT HE HAS CULTIVATED IN MY LIFE IN THAT TIME!  He is a loving Father, a faithful friend, a forgiving Savior, a caring Counselor, and a guiding God.  

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  • 2 years ago

Faith’s Lack of Guarantees

Faith does not come with a list of guarantees.  God speaks, we obey, and often we think we know how God is going to answer.  Then He doesn’t show up that way and we’re like, “What the heck, God?!”  

Abraham hears God and obeys, leaving his homeland in Genesis 12.  It’s a step of faith, dramatic music is playing in the background.  Then, v.10 happens,  ”A famine struck Canaan”.  The promised land is hit hard and Abraham has to go live in Egypt as a foreigner.  Discouraged and confused? Probably.  Questioning God?  Probably.

What step of faith have you taken recently?  What “guaranteed thing” hasn’t been there, even though you obeyed?  

God is our guarantee.  In Ephesians 1 it says that the Holy Spirit is God’s guarantee to us of our inheritance in Him.  He is the ONLY guaranteed thing in our life.  He will NEVER leave us or forsake us.  He will watch over us and provide for all of our needs.  

Lean back on God.  If He has promised something, He will make it happen in HIS time and in HIS way.  Trust it.  Relax.  And learn to speak Egyptian in the process, Abraham! 

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  • 2 years ago

"Go to where people are, you’ll know what to do."  Mr. Glass says this to Bruce Willis’ character in Unbreakable.  It is something we need to consider as Christians.  Instead of sitting in my room reading my Bible all the time, I need to take what I’ve learned and get among people.  

Jesus, like Mr. Glass, tells us, “The Holy Spirit will give you the words as the time comes to stand in front of people.”  I remembered this tonight as we went to an event in Ocean View.  As we were among people, the Holy Spirit began to speak to Jess and I about talking to certain people, and even gave us an idea for a way we can bless a group of people who will be there next week.  

What about you?  Go to where people are, and see what God might speak to you!  

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  • 2 years ago

29 words at 29 years old.

Mom. Dad.
Michael. Laura.
Toledo. Chowdhury.
Hamtown. REAL.
Adam. Andrew.
Norfolk. Flores.

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  • 2 years ago